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# 1 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 17:16
 
 
I could never dream of coming out I feel my life would be over if I did I hate betraying my gf but I am bi can anyone give me any advice on what to do please. Thank u
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# 2 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 17:17
 
 
How would you be betraying your girlfriend by admitting to her you are bisexual.
Being bi does not mean you have to cheat.

If you want to sleep around then do the right thing and do it single.
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# 3 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 17:18
 
 
Are you.planning on cheating on her?
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# 4 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 17:34
 
 
Your life will not be over. You'd be surprised. Life will get easier in time and you will feel freer, being open and out about who you are.
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# 5 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 17:37
 
 
Someone said :
I could never dream of coming out I feel my life would be over if I did I hate betraying my gf but I am bi can anyone give me any advice on what to do please. Thank u

I have to agree with Jesus... to me this has nothing to do with you being bi... and more to do with you being horny...
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# 6 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 19:05
 
 
Hi Neil and welcome to the boards.

Have you been with a guy yet?
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# 7 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 19:19
 
 
Someone said :
I could never dream of coming out I feel my life would be over if I did I hate betraying my gf but I am bi can anyone give me any advice on what to do please. Thank u

There are so many questions regarding the state of your relationship with your girlfriend.
How long have you been with her?
Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her?
If so, then you probably need to tell her.
If she thinks she loves you, she needs to know about all of you and then see if she really loves you.
If you think you love her, then you should be able to tell her about this part of you.
If you both really are a great match for each other personality-wise then this shouldn't adversely affect your relationship.

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# 8 : Saturday 11-2-2012 @ 21:18
 
 
Be honest with her beleave me I know its the best
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# 9 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 13:14
 
 
Someone said :
I could never dream of coming out I feel my life would be over if I did I hate betraying my gf but I am bi can anyone give me any advice on what to do please. Thank u.


Hi neil, I too am bi, you will only be betraying your girlfriend if you two time her.
If you luv her and want to be with her all well and good, however if you feel that you need to be with a man, you need to end your relationship first. I hope this has helped.
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# 10 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 15:35
 
 
You are not alone in your dilemma. Don't despair. I would say that almost everyone on this forum has at one point in there life felt fear and trepidation with regard to their sexuality.

Be honest with your girlfriend she could end up being your best friend through this but you will negate that possibility if you treat her with disrespect.

Hang out here for a while I bet you will feel less isolated in no time.
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# 11 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 16:21
 
 
Read the dates people.
His account was close in May, his post made in Feb.

Sounds like he was a dirty little sleeveen anyway.
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# 12 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 22:02
 
 
I don't think the OP's opening post actually mentioned that he was planning to cheat on his girlfriend. Unless he hinted at this before the posted was edited.

Sounds like he is stuggling with the fact that he is bi and perhaps wanted to tell his girlfriend this.
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# 13 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 22:06
 
 
Someone said :
I don't think the OP's opening post actually mentioned that he was planning to cheat on his girlfriend. Unless he hinted at this before the posted was edited.

Sounds like he is stuggling with the fact that he is bi and perhaps wanted to tell his girlfriend this.

It says he does (not "would") "hate betraying [his] gf"... which means he was "betraying" her.

broken down it reads;

- I could never dream of coming out
- I feel my life would be over if I did
- I hate betraying my gf
- but I am bi
- can anyone give me any advice on what to do please.
- Thank u
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# 14 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 22:10
 
 
I agree. He feels that he is betraying her if he does pluck up the courage to tell her he is bi. I'm only going on what has been said in the edited opening post.
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# 15 : Tuesday 13-11-2012 @ 22:13
 
 
Someone said :
I agree. He feels that he is betraying her if he does pluck up the courage to tell her he is bi. I'm only going on what has been said in the edited opening post.

I don't agree.
He says
1- I don't feel I can come out (in the future)
2- But at the same time I am betraying her (in the present) and I hate it

He does not feel coming out would betray her, but that it would expose him.
"I hate betraying" means: I am betraying and I hate doing it in the present.
As oppose to "I'd hate", "I would hate to come out and thus betray her".

So by what he wrote: he betrays her, feels bad about it, and wonders if he should come out instead.


So he is damned if he does and damned if he "don't"!
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