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Do You Shop Local.? Ie. Date Local People. ?
 
# 1 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 05:52
 
 
I met 2 fine eligible girls on my travels yesterday. The trouble is they're both rather local and I met them just in ordinary circumstances, not a disco or dance or somewhere you meet people.

Experience has made me a bit slow to ask out or date local people. If my advances get rejected, there's the trouble of meeting them often again day to day.

So what's your view on local people ? Are they fair game for your amorous advances ? Or is it best not to Shit on your own doorstep as my brother said when I told him of one recent rejection I suffered ?
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# 2 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 12:34
 
 
Someone said :
I met 2 fine eligible girls on my travels yesterday. The trouble is they're both rather local and I met them just in ordinary circumstances, not a disco or dance or somewhere you meet people.

Was it the local shop?
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# 3 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 13:42
 
 
Someone said :

Was it the local shop?

well one was. You have me well sussed Mango
And the other the sister of a male friend that I visited last night.
So what's your advice Mango ?
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# 4 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 13:58
 
 
I can understand where you are coming from on this topic alright, it depends what you are looking for out of the date, just some fun or possibly something more. It can work out great of course, my brother is a case in point - dated and married a local girl and now have a family. Probably best not to overthink it!!
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# 5 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 14:05
 
 
Someone said :

Probably best not to overthink it!!

I tend to only think of the upside though.
I crashed and burned with a girl last year.

I know what you are saying though
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# 6 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 14:53
 
 
Someone said :

well one was. You have me well sussed Mango
And the other the sister of a male friend that I visited last night.
So what's your advice Mango ?

Depends what you are looking for really -

If its NSA; wham, bam, thank you ma'am then local may be a bad idea

If you want someone to grow old with and to make your hang sangiches then local is no issue really
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# 7 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 16:40
 
 
I'd prefer to date local people.
I doubt I would ever leave a relationship where we couldn't look at each other in the street afterward.
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# 8 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 16:44
 
 
It wouldn't bother me whether the bloke was local or from the city centre.
For convenience sake as I don't drive I wouldn't go further a field than that but I certainly wouldn't be put off because someone lived nearby
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# 9 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 16:56
 
 
Someone said :
It wouldn't bother me whether the bloke was local or from the city centre.
For convenience sake as I don't drive I wouldn't go further a field than that but I certainly wouldn't be put off because someone lived nearby

For a second I read that and thought it said

For convenience sake as I don't drive I wouldn't go further than a field away


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# 10 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 17:53
 
 
Someone said :

For a second I read that and thought it said

For convenience sake as I don't drive I wouldn't go further than a field away


Me too
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# 11 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 19:36
 
 
Me three :/
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# 12 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 20:50
 
 
Is that not what grindr is for? Helping ya 'shop' local I mean lol
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# 13 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 23:24
 
 
Herself is American, so I guess that's a no.
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# 14 : Saturday 8-6-2013 @ 23:41
 
 
I guess if people were from a rual town land then the larger area along with the village/town it be might slightly awkward.
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# 15 : Sunday 9-6-2013 @ 13:24
 
 
I have moved a lot.

So if by local you mean the village I was born in, it is a defo no, no and no again. (To give context, the left-wing activist and gay-right campaigner who was killed in France last week was (allegedly) murdered by a local of my father's home town.)

I have found out when I was a kid that when I was coming back from 3 years away from my birth town and back, they had not changed/evolved one bit. Not one bit. They were set in their ways.

Technically I am wed to a local.
He is local to me (we live in the same house!) and he is local to the general vicinity (he was born in the extended area and works in the village he was born in).

To answer your question in a context more relevant to you, I would second the "don't mess local, but don't hesitate to be serious locally". That s what your brother meant by not shitting on your doorstep.
At the same time, I would not grant a premium to shopping local, unless you feel part of a local community that you want to stay in and reproduce as it is.
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