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# 1 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:32
 
 
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DEAR AMY: I recently discovered that my son, who is 17, is a homosexual. We are part of a church group and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.

He won’t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years — I have a busy work schedule.

Please help him make the right choice in life by not being gay. He won’t listen to me, so maybe he will listen to you. -- Feeling Betrayed

DEAR BETRAYED: You could teach your son an important lesson by changing your own sexuality to show him how easy it is. Try it for the next year or so: Stop being a heterosexual to demonstrate to your son that a person’s sexuality is a matter of choice — to be dictated by one’s parents, the parents’ church and social pressure.

I assume that my suggestion will evoke a reaction that your sexuality is at the core of who you are. The same is true for your son. He has a right to be accepted by his parents for being exactly who he is.

When you “forget” a child’s birthday, you are basically negating him as a person. It is as if you are saying that you have forgotten his presence in the world. How very sad for him.

Pressuring your son to change his sexuality is wrong. If you cannot learn to accept him as he is, it might be safest for him to live elsewhere.

A group that could help you and your family figure out how to navigate this is Pflag.org. This organization is founded for parents, families, friends and allies of LGBT people, and has helped countless families through this challenge. Please research and connect with a local chapter.

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# 2 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:36
 
 
wow. fairplay to whoever she is. talk about hitting the nail on the head!!
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# 3 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:36
 
 
God, If I see that fucking letter one more time I'm going to slit someones throat.
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# 4 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:42
 
 
Most (almost all) letters to agony aunts these days are fiction and designed towards getting clicks/selling papers. Deal with it. I'd bet .000001 bitcoins that the church going birthday forgetting homophobic mum is about as realistic as the last person who wrote to Kate Holmquist about riding the plumber or whatever.
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# 5 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:47
 
 
Someone said :
Most (almost all) letters to agony aunts these days are fiction and designed towards getting clicks/selling papers. Deal with it. I'd bet .000001 bitcoins that the church going birthday forgetting homophobic mum is about as realistic as the last person who wrote to Kate Holmquist about riding the plumber or whatever.

thats true.
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# 6 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 14:55
 
 
Someone said :

thats true.

Too right. People are easily manipulated.
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# 7 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 15:04
 
 
i know. you cant help but read them though. its like watching jeremy kyle. it makes you feel better about whatever shite youre going through yourself. sad but true.
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# 8 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 15:17
 
 
I don't know what is awesome about it either. Was it because she didn't suggest sending him to a camp or the like?
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# 9 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 15:30
 
 
well what i liked about it was the fact she basically told " the mother" to snap out of it. as dolly says,it probably isnt a real letter. but makes you wonder how many people are actually thinking like that?
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# 10 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 18:56
 
 
Someone said :
I don't know what is awesome about it either. Was it because she didn't suggest sending him to a camp or the like?

Because she told the mother to try changing her sexual orientation for a while.
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# 11 : Saturday 30-11-2013 @ 21:52
 
 
I liked it at the beginning then they spliced it with the casual "missed his birthday three years in a row" bit which made no sense and made the fact that it was makey uppy bullshit too obvious.

Other than that it had some manner of fabricated merit,
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# 12 : Sunday 1-12-2013 @ 13:57
 
 
God, when some peple here see a hint of silver, they are determined to find a cloud.
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# 13 : Sunday 1-12-2013 @ 23:45
 
 
But every silver lining has a black cloud,does it not,and a half full glass is half empty,is it not?
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