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Is An Affair Ever Justified?
 
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# 1 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:38
 
 
It seems that a lot of married men on this site who cross dress seem to have extra marital affairs as well as a lot of closeted bisexual men. I imagine that its because there is no ways their wives would accept their sexy hobbies. So if said activity would ruin an otherwise good marriage if they were honest to their wives, can the affair/one night stand/cross dressing sex buddy be justified?


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# 2 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:47
 
 
Of course it can. People should not assume that men, or women, in marriage are getting the sex they need and long for. In my experience, from conversations with people of both sexes and all orientations, they frequently are not getting any sex, much less satisfaction or excitement.


If you say that cheating is never justified, then you are condemning very many unfulfilled, unhappy people to a sexless existence, needing, longing, mourning its loss, but forbidden to try to find that part of their happiness, until they break with a loved partner, or one of them dies.
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# 3 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:50
 
 
It seems that a lot of married men seem to have extra marital affairs.
I imagine that its because there is no way their wives would accept their sexy hobbies with other women.
So if said activity would ruin an otherwise good marriage if they were honest to their wives, can the affair/one night stand/female sex buddy be justified?

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# 4 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:51
 
 
Someone said :

If you say that cheating is never justified, then you are condemning very many unfulfilled, unhappy people to a sexless existence, needing, longing, mourning its loss, but forbidden to try to find that part of their happiness, until they break with a loved partner, or one of them dies.

but shouldn't the couple sit down and talk about the lack of sex as they are a married couple and thus be open and honest about all aspects of their lives?
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# 5 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:57
 
 
Does a quickie count as an affair?
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# 6 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 15:58
 
 
Of course. Its all cheating.
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# 7 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:05
 
 
Is the pole question limited to the scenario described the opening post?
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# 8 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:08
 
 
no
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# 9 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:17
 
 
but shouldn't the couple sit down and talk about the lack of sex as they are a married couple and thus be open and honest about all aspects of their lives?

I can see you've never been married, if you think that would a) be possible b) Make any difference

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# 10 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:24
 
 
If you can't be honest about your sexual interests with the person to whom you are committed then really what is the point?
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# 11 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:25
 
 
If your not happy in your marriage the only thing you can do it talk to the person your married too. Happiness is not always found by sleeping with someone else.
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# 12 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:27
 
 
Someone said :

but shouldn't the couple sit down and talk about the lack of sex as they are a married couple and thus be open and honest about all aspects of their lives?

Yes they should.
If you promise to never have sexual relations with anyone but your partner, then you are scum if you break that promise.
End of story.
If you feel a compelling desire to break your monogamy vow, then talk about this with your partner.
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# 13 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 16:28
 
 
If you can't be honest about your sexual interests with the person to whom you are committed then really what is the point?

Good question. Wish I knew the answer. Whatever you say on the subject is interpreted, at least by Irishwomen of my generation, as manipulative communication, aimed at getting your leg over.
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# 14 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 17:26
 
 
Someone said :
If you say that cheating is never justified, then you are condemning very many unfulfilled, unhappy people to a sexless existence, needing, longing, mourning its loss, but forbidden to try to find that part of their happiness, until they break with a loved partner, or one of them dies.

If someone is unhappy with the lack of sex in a relationship to the extent that they need to sleep with someone else then they should leave their partner and find someone they are happy with and let their partner find someone they are better suited to.

People do not get sick or die from a lack of sex.
If they can get the approval from their partner then fine.
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# 15 : Tuesday 25-3-2014 @ 18:07
 
 
Someone said :
Of course it can. People should not assume that men, or women, in marriage are getting the sex they need and long for.

Then do something about it? Talk to your partner, go to marriage counselling. Make a fucking effort.

Because being dishonest about it is just downright cowardly, lazy and a refusal to take any responsibility for it.
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