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In Ireland Is It Easier Being Gay In A City?
 
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# 31 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 06:40
 
 
As an adult in todays age being in the country probably isn't as bad as it used to be. People are more open now etc. Being in the city is prob a bit easier as you have more access to gay services and gay bars etc

Growing up though...def easier in a city. It's more anonymous in a city and don't forget kids can very cruel!
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# 32 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 10:22
 
 
I just noticed something about being a child in an estate. I grew up on a farm so up until I could cycle on the main road all my playdates were organised in advance and so I had plenty of time to play with my sister and by myself around the farm. But now I live in an estate I see all the boys come out on the road and play soccer almost every single day and I was just thinking I think I might of hated it if all my friends/classmates were outside my window every single day. And these are only little kids, I think I definitely wouldn't have like it if loads of boys from secondary were right on top of me every time I opened my front door. Unless of course I happened to get on with all of them. I think it could be even worse for girls growing up in an estate.
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# 33 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 10:56
 
 
Yes, IMO it's easier to be gay in a city. More anonymity and greater numbers mean more opportunity to meet others of the same persuasion.
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# 34 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 11:00
 
 
Lucky, anonymity and meeting people of the same persuasion are not high on my where to live list.
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# 35 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 14:25
 
 
There is no where in Ireland that is too far from a city, so where you lay your head does not need to be where you party. I'm all old and shit now so my criteria for where I live has nothing to do with whether I can get laid anonymously but whether I can walk to the shop and order food to be delivered.
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# 36 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:07
 
 
Someone said :
There is no where in Ireland that is too far from a city,

define "too" far.

There are places in the west of Ireland where a Trip to Galway/Dublin means an early morning set off and an overnight stay.
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# 37 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:13
 
 
Everyone seems to be mentioning nightlife and dating which are all very true but lets not forget the day to day things... like dressing or behaving in a certain way without being stared at or made to feel awkward in some way.
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# 38 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:19
 
 
Someone said :

define "too" far.

There are places in the west of Ireland where a Trip to Galway/Dublin means an early morning set off and an overnight stay.

In fact, given that not every city has a gay scene at all, it would be overnight stays for the majority of country folk.
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# 39 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:26
 
 
Someone said :

define "too" far.

There are places in the west of Ireland where a Trip to Galway/Dublin means an early morning set off and an overnight stay.

Where? And Galway is a city, Dublin is not our only city. If you can make it to a city,, any city, with in an hour you are in commuting distance of a city. You can travel from Letterkenny to Cork in six hours, then you probably need to stay the night.

If you are reliant on a bus to get everywhere, then learn to drive it's not that hard or expensive.
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# 40 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:34
 
 
Someone said :
Everyone seems to be mentioning nightlife and dating which are all very true but lets not forget the day to day things... like dressing or behaving in a certain way without being stared at or made to feel awkward in some way.

What I was thinking. Just growing up, not just going out or shags. With more in a city it just seems less people care that you happen to be gay. Smaller communities I guess might think of it as who you are.
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# 41 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 15:37
 
 
Someone said :
Id imagine if you are a young person/ or someone exploring your sexuality then the city would be easier.

Yes its not much fun being the only gay in the village
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# 42 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 16:15
 
 
Someone said :

Where? And Galway is a city, Dublin is not our only city. If you can make it to a city,, any city, with in an hour you are in commuting distance of a city. You can travel from Letterkenny to Cork in six hours, then you probably need to stay the night.

If you are reliant on a bus to get everywhere, then learn to drive it's not that hard or expensive.

Ah come on now. I grew up two hours from Dublin and even that would be an overnight stay if I planned on going out for the night. Four hours on the road in a day is a long time.

Very few places in this country are actually an hour from a gay scene.

Unless you live just out on outskirts of a city, and you want to go out to meet someone, you will have to stay overnight.

Mind you, when you start saying things like "learn to drive", it's more proof that life in the city is easier for gay people.
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# 43 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 16:21
 
 
Someone said :

Where? And Galway is a city, Dublin is not our only city. If you can make it to a city,, any city, with in an hour you are in commuting distance of a city. You can travel from Letterkenny to Cork in six hours, then you probably need to stay the night.

If you are reliant on a bus to get everywhere, then learn to drive it's not that hard or expensive.

What are you talking about?! For someone like greenman to learn, buy a car and get insured it would cost 1500 at the very least. And that's before the running expenses. Plus if you buy a cheap car you're prob gonna be paying for repairs all the time. Also if you get to a city by commuting how do you get home beyond maybe 11.30 in most places if not earlier?!!
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# 44 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 16:23
 
 
Someone said :

What I was thinking. Just growing up, not just going out or shags. With more in a city it just seems less people care that you happen to be gay. Smaller communities I guess might think of it as who you are.

Ah you have them all won over with your hurling
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# 45 : Tuesday 9-9-2014 @ 16:47
 
 
Someone said :

What are you talking about?! For someone like greenman to learn, buy a car and get insured it would cost 1500 at the very least. And that's before the running expenses. Plus if you buy a cheap car you're prob gonna be paying for repairs all the time. Also if you get to a city by commuting how do you get home beyond maybe 11.30 in most places if not earlier?!!

And how much is spent on public transport, taxis and overnights because you can't get home a year? Or on higher rents in the city?

Anywho, lets go with for some people living in the city is better and for other people living in the city is not. For some people being gay is not about the scene, for some people being gay is about the scene. For some people travel is hard, for some people travel is easy.

I love living in the city but it is not for everyone, just like being straight in the countryside is not for everyone.
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