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In Ireland Is It Easier Being Gay In A City?
 
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# 61 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:10
 
 
Oh yeah, sorry, not necessarily I suppose, but maybe just having less contact with "kindred spirits"... It might be fine just existing, even having a social group and acceptance, but I'd need people that shared the other, gay, part of me. But aside from the social aspect I do feel the threat of someone saying something ignorant or just a look, would weigh mych more heavily on me down the country. Actually that's a big problem with the cotntry, gay or straight, there's not enough choice. I know if I go out in portlaoise whether I'm gay, straight, scumbag, normal, mainstream or alternative, if I want to go to a club I'm gonna end up in the same places as everyone else. I might have loads of cool, open minded friends but yet I have to mingle with ignorant scumbags who might abuse me.
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# 62 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:11
 
 
Someone said :

So please educate us where gay people can meet - either as friends but more likely for relationships - outside of a gay hub/community. I'm not aware of any big gay social scene outside of the cities. Yes, there are groups like LGBT North West that meet monthly. But that's monthly. Not really thriving is it?

There's this thing called the interweb where people with common interests can meet up. As for lgbt North west, gay people in Sligo generally hit Foleys or Shoot the Crows.
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# 63 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:14
 
 
There's also an implicit suggestion in this thread that everyone who lives outside cities is backward and intolerant.
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# 64 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:22
 
 
@mango: no of course not but like it or not both numerically and proportionally more educated, worldly people do live in cities because thats where the jobs are. And because those sort of people are drawn to the cultural, entertainment, social, educational etc offerings of a city.
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# 65 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:27
 
 
This is not America. You can live in a village and still drive to the city to go out/work like I do.
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# 66 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:39
 
 
Someone said :
@mango: no of course not but like it or not both numerically and proportionally more educated, worldly people do live in cities because thats where the jobs are. And because those sort of people are drawn to the cultural, entertainment, social, educational etc offerings of a city.

Ah ok... everyone living outside cities is uneducated and uncultured
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# 67 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:45
 
 
Mmm yes,but you can't drink drive, buses don't run that late, people dont want long commutes etc etc. Plus who wants to have to behave one way around the town/village and only let loose when they get a chance to go to the city. Obviously that isnt a gay exclusive dilemma but its especially problematic for gay people
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# 68 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:51
 
 
Someone said :

Ah ok... everyone living outside cities is uneducated and uncultured



That's nothing like what I said. Now maybe you took me up wrong; when I said "more" I meant there's more of them rather than that people in the city are more educated or cultured as a rule. But yes there are larger numbers of educated and cultured people in the cities. That is a fact of population demographics not just a generalisation.
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# 69 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 18:58
 
 
Someone said :


That's nothing like what I said. Now maybe you took me up wrong; when I said "more" I meant there's more of them rather than that people in the city are more educated or cultured as a rule. But yes there are larger numbers of educated and cultured people in the cities. That is a fact of population demographics not just a generalisation.

Im sure in absolute numbers its true. Proportionately Im not so sure. I dunno but I think some of the discussion in this thread is a form of snobbery and looking down on those who dont live in cities.
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# 70 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 19:03
 
 
Someone said :


That's nothing like what I said. Now maybe you took me up wrong; when I said "more" I meant there's more of them rather than that people in the city are more educated or cultured as a rule. But yes there are larger numbers of educated and cultured people in the cities. That is a fact of population demographics not just a generalisation.

Also, a greater proportion of younger liberal people are drawn to cities.

Look, I'm not saying life in the country is shit. It's absolutely fine and I'm sure there are lots of gay people (mostly in ltrs) very happy there.
But it's undeniable that life in cities is easier for gay people. Driving hours to meet someone of the same persuasion is not easy. Feeling uncomfortable or feeling like an outsider (which is as much about the person as the place) is not easy. Relying only on the internet and still having to travel for miles and miles to go on a date is not easy.

It's really not debatable.
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# 71 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 19:05
 
 
Mmmm I'd say definitely proportionally too.
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# 72 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 19:05
 
 
Someone said :

Im sure in absolute numbers its true. Proportionately Im not so sure. I dunno but I think some of the discussion in this thread is a form of snobbery and looking down on those who dont live in cities.

Snobbery?!
You're just wrong there.
Look at two of the loudest on this thread - myself and polo - both from small country towns.
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# 73 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 20:22
 
 
Someone said :

It's not nonsense. I put on grindr last time I was back at my parents out of interest. The nearest person was five miles away but the nearest openly out was forty miles away.

But how far away is the nearest town from you parents? If there are only 50 people in a 50 mile radius then this example is invalid. Also how good is the internet where your parents are from?

Anywho, I'm happy that you enjoy being a gay in the city, I am also a happy city gay, but there are lots of happy country gays too.
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# 74 : Wednesday 10-9-2014 @ 20:24
 
 
Someone said :

Look at two of the loudest on this thread - myself and polo - both from small country towns.

I think the majority of people who have posted in this thread are from small country towns. I know I am and I'm pretty sure elat is.
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