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Meet My Standards Before You Meet My Parents!
 
# 1 : Sunday 12-7-2015 @ 16:56
 
 
I always had a "6-month" rule before introducing someone to my friends and family: only one who was "6-month material", or had passed the 6-month mark could be introduced to my family/friends.

What kind of standards to you apply to a lay/squeeze before you'd consider introducing her or him to your inner circle?

Are those standards different for friends versus family? Higher or lower?
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# 2 : Sunday 12-7-2015 @ 17:21
 
 
If i don't like her then i introduce her to my mother, otherwise i don't fuss over it.
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# 3 : Sunday 12-7-2015 @ 17:23
 
 
If I had of waited six months , my Mother would have thought the guy was married.
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# 4 : Sunday 19-7-2015 @ 10:29
 
 
Someone said :
If I had of waited six months , my Mother would have thought the guy was married.

But how many guys did you introduce who did not pass the 6-month threshold?
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# 5 : Sunday 19-7-2015 @ 12:18
 
 
Someone said :

But how many guys did you introduce who did not pass the 6-month threshold?

The cast was too huge to count.
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# 6 : Monday 20-7-2015 @ 12:36
 
 
I don't have that sort of freedom in my family.

I'd give it about a week before any one of my sisters or mum, would know more about the guy then I would.
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# 7 : Monday 20-7-2015 @ 15:14
 
 
Hmm interesting question. Never gave it any thought now that you ask... just always been circumstantial and never was there a big deal made.
Think it was roughly a year maybe more before family met the bf... can't even really remember how it occurred either.
Never close with parents so meeting mine or theirs never priority.


To be honest if there's a 6 month formula, I doubt I could have a decent grasp of the person's current spectrum of values in that tibme to know if we're going go stay together or how I feel about them etc let alone meet their parents.


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# 8 : Sunday 2-7-2017 @ 12:11
 
 
It's baffling the number of people who count relationships under 6 months as "long term".
And that's not even the greenhornies only: a 50 y.o. counting hsi long term relationships got to over 50!
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# 9 : Monday 3-7-2017 @ 08:20
 
 
Is more than one night counted as long term in our world? I would introduce him to friends pretty quickly, parents a couple of months.
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# 10 : Monday 3-7-2017 @ 14:15
 
 
I see no need to do this. In my situation, it would be pointless.
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# 11 : Monday 3-7-2017 @ 15:01
 
 
Someone said :
I always had a "6-month" rule before introducing someone to my friends and family: only one who was "6-month material", or had passed the 6-month mark could be introduced to my family/friends.

What kind of standards to you apply to a lay/squeeze before you'd consider introducing her or him to your inner circle?

Are those standards different for friends versus family? Higher or lower?

how do you avoid your friends/ family meeting even a friend who was in your life for 6 months ?
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# 12 : Monday 3-7-2017 @ 16:28
 
 
Someone said :

how do you avoid your friends/ family meeting even a friend who was in your life for 6 months ?

Parents: by putting a sea,ocean or continent between you and them.
Friends: by not introducing them!

Note also that I have mentioned "6-month material", meaning they have an undeniable potential to stick around for 6 months. For instance if you have moved in with them...
This can happen within days!
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# 13 : Monday 3-7-2017 @ 21:21
 
 
Someone said :

Parents: by putting a sea,ocean or continent between you and them.
Friends: by not introducing them!

Note also that I have mentioned "6-month material", meaning they have an undeniable potential to stick around for 6 months. For instance if you have moved in with them...
This can happen within days!

And how do these " 6 month material" interact with their parents and you and their friends and you?
Do they know you behave like this or they just think you dont have any friends and a shite relationship with your parents...
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# 14 : Tuesday 4-7-2017 @ 13:17
 
 
I don't know what is so special about you that you don't introduce someone you are dating or fucking to your friends for 6 months? How creepy is that? Obviously you've been hurt but that's no reason to be a dick.
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# 15 : Tuesday 4-7-2017 @ 20:01
 
 
Someone said :
I don't know what is so special about you that you don't introduce someone you are dating or fucking to your friends for 6 months? How creepy is that? Obviously you've been hurt but that's no reason to be a dick.

Nothing special about me. It is just something I did early on to avoid a string of pointless introductions.

And how is that being a dick?
I never had an argument where I needed to argue that "they were not good enough to be introduced", if that is what you imagine! The kind of people I dated never pressured me to introduce them before we both were ready, nor did they pressure me in meeting or not meeting anyone.
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