Someone said :
Yeah, it's just.
It appears as if Penny is calling someone an arsehole, for not being able to time travel.
It's one thing, people entering into false marriages to hide who they are, it's entirely another, finding out who you are after the dust has settled and being brave enough to do the right thing and tell your partner.
If this were another time, or culture, I (or any one of us) could have easily been married off to someone before we've ever had the luxury of exploring our secuality.
And considering I know some folk who literally had to face facts 5,10,20 years into a marriage, with children, before discovering who they really were. The idea of calling someone an asshole for doing the brave thing, sounds wrong.
I agree, instinctively. But I there's a spectrum of arsehole-ness. Some worse than others. And some who were helpless to know how things were going to turn out. Not all of these people are necessarily bad people who want to hurt a wife/partner who fell for them.