Hi Alegator1, welcome to gaire.
I tend to agree with he consensus here.
Maybe seeing a professional about these phobias will help make coming out a lot easier.
If you can, or haven't already, find a Cognitive-Behavioural Therapist in your area this will be a great help in particular.
If this doesn't appeal and youd rather focus on the Coming Out part, then maybe try consulting www.gayswitchboard.ie
In the meantime, I'd recommend normalising yourself to talking anonymously about coming out. Feel free to ask questions here about experiences, share concerns if you wish.
Coming out can be different for everyone, but generally nervousness is normal... even for those without phobias.