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But is it fair and right to have sex with other men behind your wife's back? Not only is it incredibly deceitful and selfish, but it is potentially putting her health at risk too.
I find the concept of "married bi guys" cheating on their wives/partners with other men pretty distasteful.
I can understand why older gay/bi men might have been pressured, either through internalised homophobia or societal prejudice, to enter into heterosexual marriage but in the year 2016 there really is no excuse for this to happen in Ireland. If you are gay and married to woman, it's best for both parties to come clean, go your separate ways if need be and move on. Cheating should never be the answer.
As if straight men or women never cheated on their partners, but gays have to be virtuous! Come off it. "No excuse in 2016"? We only got gay marriage last year, let's not pretend that homophobia had been eradicated. There are still tons of men and women, stuck in straight relationships, who missed the boat. Sure, ideally they would separate from their current spouse before they experiment with same sex relations, but how many straight men or women leave their spouses for someone else *before* they even get off with someone else?
Let's get real. Society has conditioned people for centuries to deprecate same-sex feelings. I've never changed my opinion on this - I say to someone tempted by same-sex urges: don't die wondering. Try it out, stay safe, and if you think you want to make the leap, go for it! Don't think you have to act to a higher moral standard than straight people and ignore anyone that thinks otherwise.
Its nor your responsibility to uphold the sanctity of a marriage law that prohibited same-sex equality until a few months ago.
Live life as freely as you can, do your best to be true to yourself, try not to hurt others, but don't piss away your dignity or your happiness just because it's not the most ethically perfect solution. We spent long enough in this country ridding ourselves of moralising priests. Be free.