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Are Older/Mature Men Left Out?
 
# 1 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 13:31
 
 
All emphasis on these sites is on young lads and their age limits with when it comes

to older/mature men. Hard for us to find an NSA partner who can turn into a regular one.

Leads into isolation, discontent and depression. What to do?
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# 2 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 13:36
 
 
I'd say the average age on gaire is about 40, not exactly young lads.
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# 3 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 13:37
 
 
I think it's apps like Grindr, Growlr that you might be looking for. There is a classifieds section on this site also.
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# 4 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 13:40
 
 
I don't think Gaire is all that young in terms of average age. Well, certainly not on the message boards! As the years have gone by the age of the regular posters has, unsurprisingly, increased.

Certain sites/apps like Grindr are biased towards more youthful guys. However, I suspect quite a few guys on Grindr lie about their age.
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# 5 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 13:53
 
 
I prefer here.. been apart of it a while..never met anyone.but I miss the chat function.. but this place is good..better than grindr and stuff
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# 6 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 15:09
 
 
First of all; Try Growlr. (the "Growlr" app)

Secondly of all, I think you're wrong, there isn't an emphasis on young lads at all on "these sites". Almost any gay website, app or online community I've seen has been full of different age groups.

On top of that who's to say all "young lads", are into other young lads?
Relationships with bigger age differences are far more common in gay people then straight folk. So even if there were places with more young folk then old, the real age that matters is the preferred aged partner someone tends to look for.

You're just experiencing is what we are all experiencing. The fact that there aren't that many gay people knocking around and finding people is tough.

You gotta do what we all do; go out, meet people, make friends, sign up for social apps, etc.
It's tough, but sure if it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
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# 7 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 15:23
 
 
Also, having looked at your profile, I see you don't share face pics and that you tend to look for "Married and bi-attached guys" as an ideal squeeze (???).

I find the attitude of seeing one's homosexuality as a devious, secretive, dark side of what is otherwise "normal, healthy" living as homophobic and amoral. You will probably have more success if you face reality and start treating others AND yourself with the respect you're due; Start looking for single people who are physically and emotionally available to enter into a relationship with you, or at the very least and FREE to mess arounf with you. It's time to put sexual affairs behind you and realize that bisexuality and homosexuality is NOT an excuse to be unfaithful (for either you or a partner).

Sorry to be blunt.
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# 8 : Thursday 13-10-2016 @ 15:28
 
 
Why would you get with a single guy if you yourself are married?
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# 9 : Saturday 25-2-2017 @ 21:57
 
 
I am now officially old I'm sure everybody would agree. I have no problem with married (to a woman) men looking for a bit on the side. I don't see it as cheating on their wives. They are bisexual and want a man also. I don't want to marry any of them so no worries there.
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# 10 : Tuesday 7-3-2017 @ 07:30
 
 
Someone said :
All emphasis on these sites is on young lads and their age limits with when it comes

to older/mature men. Hard for us to find an NSA partner who can turn into a regular one.

Leads into isolation, discontent and depression. What to do?

Was it easier when no such Apps existed?
Do you feel that somehow NSA candidates were in the past passionate about older people and now are influenced by these Apps into some mysterious youngism?

Are you saying that you are trying to hook-up with men older than yourself, and you find them stuck on trying to find young bucks to ride?
Or are you saying that you are disappointed that the guys younger than you are not interested in your age bracket?

The reality is simpler:
- You are 20 years older than 20 years ago
- Aging has always been synonymous with increasing sexual scarcity, for most
- If you own age-range preference has not grown with your age, you cannot blame your target audience for shunning your age-range
- NSA and "regular" do not really go hand-in-hand... To get a fuck-buddy, it has to be more about being buddies than fucking without strings
- Those Apps are what they are and do what they do: market places for consumable sex

So what to do?
- Accept the reality of your age, and of what you have to offer socially: how can you rebrand yourself as being attractive to your target audience?
- Re-dimension your age-target based on your age
(technically at 55 you should not expect anyone under 35 if you are no yourself ready to hook-up with a 96-year old! )
- Explore less cruisy web-sites, and put more work into creating genuine connections with genuine people who are looking beyond NSA, if you want more than NSA
- Are you out? If not, Carlow can indeed be a difficult pulling ground. Conisder being more involved in the local LGBT network and life.
- Are you involved in your local community? in activities involving men of your age? Think about it: how many other gay men, or widowers open to "convertion", could you meet in such settings? They will be more open to regular string-attached fun than App users
- If you feel depressed, talk to your doctor and find professional council : flippant replies like mine will not help anyone with that
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# 11 : Tuesday 7-3-2017 @ 22:05
 
 
You're probably dishing out a stern lecture, Blah, to someone who probably hasn't visited the form on about as long ago the months since he's posted the opening post.

But since the thread is bumped now let me share you a tale.
This one time I was chatted up by this really old guy, he was probably in his 80's, and that's not me exaggerating.
He was with his mates in "jurrasic park" (the front bar of the george) and I wandered in to have a quiet pint becasue I was too fed up at the time to face a night of loud pop and "Haircuts".

Anyways for one reason or another I was docked near their chatting, and a conversation struck.

He was just like any other "adult out having a drink", having a laugh with his friends, being social and I was just someone who didn't have any hang ups about age. To be honest, I've never had a better chat with a gang I met out.
Like many's an "old fucker" I talk to or meet, gay or straight, They had a relaxed fecklessness and lack of ego that was really refreshing.
They've seen it all before and they're not miserable cunts about it.

And that was a good 40+ age gap.
I think sometimes people need to grow up about "old" people. I mean, what is age once you're passed 21? or passed 35? or passed 50? we're all just meaty bags of blood and bone and we get a finite number of years to look at things before we piss off back to the abyss of lifelessness. Would you rather spend it having the craic with 'real' people, whatever their age, or listening to poorly written music, and, people trying to impress each other with jaunty haircuts.

what do haircuts even have anything to do with? You don't even give yourself the haircut. It doesn't prove you have any skills.
It just about proves you have enough money to buy yourself a haircut, but that's a very small amount of money in the grand scheme of living costs.

Having a fashionable haircut is just you saying "look at my head; someone, presumable within a transportable distance from this spot, can give people haircuts with THEIR skills, and they did one on me... for some money".
If anything, a good hair cut makes me want to go chat up the barber; he's the one with the skill set and, now that I think about it, he's got the guy's money as well.


....sorry did I get side tracked there?
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# 12 : Tuesday 7-3-2017 @ 22:10
 
 
I got a fab haircut today.
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# 13 : Thursday 9-3-2017 @ 12:38
 
 
You must live near a very skilled barber.
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# 14 : Thursday 9-3-2017 @ 23:36
 
 
^buuuuuuuuuuurn
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# 15 : Saturday 11-3-2017 @ 12:21
 
 
Someone said :

Was it easier when no such Apps existed?
Do you feel that somehow NSA candidates were in the past passionate about older people and now are influenced by these Apps into some mysterious youngism?

Are you saying that you are trying to hook-up with men older than yourself, and you find them stuck on trying to find young bucks to ride?
Or are you saying that you are disappointed that the guys younger than you are not interested in your age bracket?

The reality is simpler:
- You are 20 years older than 20 years ago
- Aging has always been synonymous with increasing sexual scarcity, for most
- If you own age-range preference has not grown with your age, you cannot blame your target audience for shunning your age-range
- NSA and "regular" do not really go hand-in-hand... To get a fuck-buddy, it has to be more about being buddies than fucking without strings
- Those Apps are what they are and do what they do: market places for consumable sex

So what to do?
- Accept the reality of your age, and of what you have to offer socially: how can you rebrand yourself as being attractive to your target audience?
- Re-dimension your age-target based on your age
(technically at 55 you should not expect anyone under 35 if you are no yourself ready to hook-up with a 96-year old! )
- Explore less cruisy web-sites, and put more work into creating genuine connections with genuine people who are looking beyond NSA, if you want more than NSA
- Are you out? If not, Carlow can indeed be a difficult pulling ground. Conisder being more involved in the local LGBT network and life.
- Are you involved in your local community? in activities involving men of your age? Think about it: how many other gay men, or widowers open to "convertion", could you meet in such settings? They will be more open to regular string-attached fun than App users
- If you feel depressed, talk to your doctor and find professional council : flippant replies like mine will not help anyone with that

This reply actually made me feel depressed
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