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# 1 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 19:36
 
 
A couple of months ago a friend of mine ( not Shaggy ) made it known to me that he wants us to be more than friends. Only thing is he's currently living it up in Australia for a year or so. We've been friends almost 4 years and if I'm honest we've always fancied each other.

We've kept in constant contact while he's been away and during our general chit chat it's come to light that we do like each other alot and will see how things go when he gets back. Back being the operative word though, I don't know when he will be home. It could be later this year or possibly the next two years. I've yet to raise that particular subject with him.

If he's home in a few months then great but if he's not home for a another couple years then should I still wait? Either of us could meet someone else in the meantime?

Thoughts?

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# 2 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 19:50
 
 
It's a tough call.

One option is actually talking to him about when he might be back? I suppose if you're honest what can he say? "how dare you think about dating and having sex while I'm away for a undisclosed number of month or possibly years?"


I;m in a similar boat with this guys I;m going to see in March. like what am I supposed to be doing in the meantime, knit jumpers?

I'm going to have that call probably sooner rather then later. the "so, what do we expect from each other until we meet" conversation
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# 3 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 20:01
 
 
Someone said :
It's a tough call.

One option is actually talking to him about when he might be back? I suppose if you're honest what can he say? "how dare you think about dating and having sex while I'm away for a undisclosed number of month or possibly years?"


I;m in a similar boat with this guys I;m going to see in March. like what am I supposed to be doing in the meantime, knit jumpers?

I'm going to have that call probably sooner rather then later. the "so, what do we expect from each other until we meet" conversation

That's the thing. We are both meeting other guys not for dates but for the other fun. Him hooking up with other guys while he's away isn't a problem for me. I probably would get jealous if he started dating someone though.

You're right. I will have to raise that subject of when he's thinking of coming home. I've seem some comments on Facebook saying he'll be home for a visit next year. He will be home for good at some point but it's a question of when.

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# 4 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 20:25
 
 
A visit next year? Um No! Waiting for someone entails a time frame while the other person finishes whatever they are doing (college, contract, travelling ect) but to stop yourself having a relationship for a guy who is gone for years is a bit ridiculous. And what happens if ye are both hungry bitch bottoms?



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# 5 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 20:35
 
 
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A visit next year? Um No! Waiting for someone entails a time frame while the other person finishes whatever they are doing (college, contract, travelling ect) but to stop yourself having a relationship for a guy who is gone for years is a bit ridiculous. And what happens if ye are both hungry bitch bottoms?


Like I said earlier on, I've yet to bring that subject up with him as to when he's thinking of coming home. He regularly asks me if I am seeing anyone as if he's trying to suss things out.
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# 6 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 20:38
 
 
If he's home after his year there then it might be something to consider. Otherwise no, move on.
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# 7 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 20:43
 
 
Someone said :
If he's home after his year there then it might be something to consider. Otherwise no, move on.

That's what I've been thinking.

We're good pals anyway and don't want that to change if nothing happens.
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# 8 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 21:08
 
 
You could have the best of both worlds. Meet a nice guy, have a whirlwind romance, fall in love, move in, get engaged, have an amazing wedding with all your friends and family then drop your husband like a hot potato the second yer man gets off the plane from Australia. WIN WIN!!!!!!

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# 9 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 21:09
 
 
Someone said :
You could have the best of both worlds. Meet a nice guy, have a whirlwind romance, fall in love, move in, get engaged, have an amazing wedding with all your friends and family then drop your husband like a hot potato the second yer man gets off the plane from Australia. WIN WIN!!!!!!


I'm not that shallow!
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# 10 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 21:12
 
 
Someone said :

I'm not that shallow!

Well maybe just have a small wedding.
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# 11 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 22:45
 
 
Someone said :

You're right. I will have to raise that subject of when he's thinking of coming home. I've seem some comments on Facebook saying he'll be home for a visit next year. He will be home for good at some point but it's a question of when.

Thats a bit vague - like home for a visit next year is not clear when he will be home for good. That would drive me mad having to wait a few years.
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# 12 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 23:17
 
 
Someone said :

Thats a bit vague - like home for a visit next year is not clear when he will be home for good. That would drive me mad having to wait a few years.

I've not asked him when he's thinking of coming home yet.
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# 13 : Monday 23-1-2017 @ 23:45
 
 
Someone said :

I've not asked him when he's thinking of coming home yet.

Well I guess thats one thing thing you need to do. I think it would really help to make things much clearer for both of you in working out what you both want.
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# 14 : Tuesday 24-1-2017 @ 13:37
 
 
Someone said :
If he's home after his year there then it might be something to consider. Otherwise no, move on.

+1
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# 15 : Sunday 29-1-2017 @ 10:55
 
 
Someone said :

I've not asked him when he's thinking of coming home yet.

Do you imagine that if he comes home and if you "become an item", you will be exclusive? Or is it more likely that you will opt for an "open" relationship, allowing him/you/both to still fool around?
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