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# 16 : Sunday 29-1-2017 @ 18:26
 
 
Someone said :

Do you imagine that if he comes home and if you "become an item", you will be exclusive? Or is it more likely that you will opt for an "open" relationship, allowing him/you/both to still fool around?

That would be our own business and no one else's.
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# 17 : Monday 30-1-2017 @ 11:17
 
 
Someone said :

That would be our own business and no one else's.

So would anything discussed in this thread, in fairness.

Beware of getting caught in to a fantasy "Disney ending" where you will live happily ever-after, following a dramatic life-changing decision to return and an airport scene.

One of the things that make it worth the wait, is that the reality of it will be worth it.
I do not care to know the answer to the question I asked. Asking it does not entitled me to any answer.

I really only ask it so you do not forget to ask it to yourself.
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# 18 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 13:08
 
 
Someone said :

So would anything discussed in this thread, in fairness.

Beware of getting caught in to a fantasy "Disney ending" where you will live happily ever-after, following a dramatic life-changing decision to return and an airport scene.

One of the things that make it worth the wait, is that the reality of it will be worth it.
I do not care to know the answer to the question I asked. Asking it does not entitled me to any answer.

I really only ask it so you do not forget to ask it to yourself.

Then why ask? I just don't see that as anyone else's business.

Anyway he's just texted me to say he'll be home in May. We'll see what happens then

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# 19 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 13:11
 
 
Life is short, live it and don't put it on hold for someone living their life down under.
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# 20 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 13:12
 
 
Someone said :
Life is short, live it and don't put it on hold for someone living their life down under.

Did you read my last comment?
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# 21 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 13:23
 
 
No dont waited, you could waste 2 years or maybe not.
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# 22 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 13:42
 
 
I would see what happens and have a chat with them and see if they are on the same wave as you or if they just want a fling before they go back to Australia.
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# 23 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 14:32
 
 
Someone said :
I would see what happens and have a chat with them and see if they are on the same wave as you or if they just want a fling before they go back to Australia.

He'll be home for good from the sound of things.
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# 24 : Thursday 2-2-2017 @ 15:04
 
 
Great wait and see what happens.
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# 25 : Sunday 12-2-2017 @ 12:13
 
 
Someone said :

Then why ask? I just don't see that as anyone else's business.

Anyway he's just texted me to say he'll be home in May. We'll see what happens then

Again, my answer will be the same two folds it was before

a) Asking a question to you does not entitle me to an answer, but it can trigger a though process you may not want to start for yourself.
In other words, I am suggesting that you ask yourself that question. I could not suggest it without saying it. i decided to use the rhetorical device I decided to use.

b) The topic of the question is no more more less anyone's business that the topic of you thread/initial post.
You starting asking people for their thoughts on your personal relationship. You were not talking pen-pals, so don't be surprised if people's contributions are within the realm you chose: intimate relationship with a long-term friend who is living (and playing) abroad.

You question was "do I wait [...] Thoughts."
My answer was basically "First ask yourself: 'how do you see it working in the future if you wait."

Next time, if you only want specific people to answer within specific parameters, why not use email?

Good to hear that he is back for what seems long-term. Now more than ever is the time to ask yourself what you were actually waiting for, and what you can expect.
Or you can listen to complacent advice telling you what you want to hear.
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# 26 : Monday 13-2-2017 @ 12:21
 
 
Well thats great if he will be home for good then you will see more of him and see where it goes.
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# 27 : Monday 13-2-2017 @ 12:28
 
 
Someone said :

Again, my answer will be the same two folds it was before

a) Asking a question to you does not entitle me to an answer, but it can trigger a though process you may not want to start for yourself.
In other words, I am suggesting that you ask yourself that question. I could not suggest it without saying it. i decided to use the rhetorical device I decided to use.

b) The topic of the question is no more more less anyone's business that the topic of you thread/initial post.
You starting asking people for their thoughts on your personal relationship. You were not talking pen-pals, so don't be surprised if people's contributions are within the realm you chose: intimate relationship with a long-term friend who is living (and playing) abroad.

You question was "do I wait [...] Thoughts."
My answer was basically "First ask yourself: 'how do you see it working in the future if you wait."

Next time, if you only want specific people to answer within specific parameters, why not use email?

Good to hear that he is back for what seems long-term. Now more than ever is the time to ask yourself what you were actually waiting for, and what you can expect.
Or you can listen to complacent advice telling you what you want to hear.

The topic I threw out for discussion and advice on was should I wait for him. All replies and advised were taken on board He's messaged me yesterday to say he will be home later this week! We've pretty much stayed in constant contact while he's been away and we both want the same thing.

In my own opinion if two people have an open relationship, it really is no ones business but their own. That's something for him and I decide. I certainly wouldn't be seeking advice about that on here. As I mentioned earlier on, he was with whoever we wanted to be with while in Australia. We even spoke about it jokingly in our chats. When he's home we are going to meet up and take things from there.
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# 28 : Monday 13-2-2017 @ 12:28
 
 
Flights aren't that expensive now just tell him you are popping down for a visit, that should have the effect of clarifying things for both of you.

Oh I just read he's home this week so hopefully things will work out for both of you
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# 29 : Monday 13-2-2017 @ 12:29
 
 
Thats the best thing to do and if you feel comfortable with his open relationship policy then it is his business and yours agreed keep us updated on what happens only if you feel you want to chat about it.
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# 30 : Monday 13-2-2017 @ 12:47
 
 
Someone said :
Flights aren't that expensive now just tell him you are popping down for a visit, that should have the effect of clarifying things for both of you.

He's coming home for good.
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