I understand completely! However, you are not alone. You could run ads here but its a bit of hit or miss here especially when it comes to finding a partner. In the mean time, find a pub in Dublin where they have some busy nights with drag-queens? Ask some queens there or here for some tips... explain you've not done this before... Then, organize a night or two at nearby hotel as well a way to get you from point A to point B quickly, with either like minded person/s with a car, or taxi (strength being in numbers). Meanwhile, find something sexy to wear, that you wouldn't normally wear at home that way when you go out in something you don't normally wear, it becomes easy to tell yourself you're just out having a laugh; doing it for kicks, perhaps as in a Parody. Because, honestly people will never know what you are doing, for all they know you are just out for the crack. It will just be you and some lads having a night out. Because, no one is going to know your motivations, unless later on you want to tell them. In fact, I'd be willing to help. We could do it as a party of two or three or four, whatever your comfortable with? We could find someone with great a make-up skills to drop in at the hotel and at the same time have some laughs getting ready to go out; get all dolled up. Well get there early and once you are there it will become nothing more than a fun and exciting night out; and something more... If some girls ask, we'l simply say we lost a bet on a game, and like Sir Richard Branson of Virgin, we lost the bet hence we were forced to dress-up for a night out; or it could be part of a charity deal. Really its OK! especially if your surrounded by like minded people. Then, later or perhaps straight away being and feeling sexy will come naturally, and you can network among like minded friends. Later, you can test other outfits and get closer to what really feels and looks even better. I did this with a beautiful black cocktail dress once because at home I never wear black, so to others it looked great but for me it was more about just getting out about having fun. Remember, people aren't judging you there, and pointing the finger, or asking Does he fit in, or does get off on wearing that sexy dress, No! Nor are there people running up to grab the microphone shouting, he's not doing this for fun, he's a damm Sissy. Trust me, it is way too fun, because you've got the guts to be normal; normal being able to have fun here. Please, do what works best for you! It's important to just meet up with some like minded people where sex is not the central issue, like the Nike ad just do it! Everyone should be able to wear dress in public no matter what the motive. If you want more confidence get some hypnosis / subliminals on utube. By no means am I endorsing it but it works for some. Hope I didn't offend anyone here because some people today are ultra sensitive when it comes to advice, especially nowadays. Again, contact me and we'll get it organized. However, ff your only interest is gaining confidence in women's panties, I hate to brake it to you but everyone is doing it, especially straight men. Good luck!