Someone said :
I can tell you what it's like from my perspective,
I moved back to Mayo after successfully auditioning for a teaching job. Secured a house to live in, sorted out rent, utilities etc, after training with them in things like child safety and company policy, I then spent three years without a SINGLE HOUR of work and eventually I just stopped contacting them.
After I while I just gave up telling people I had a job, and after 5 years of third level education and 3 years working "zero hours" as a teacher, I started gigging again for tiny amounts of money in small, busy, pubs full of people knocking pints on top of you and requesting Wagon Wheel and Galway Girl.
I'm 32 years old and I am literally earning money to keep myself fed and housed (I don't even have the luxury of moving home, my mum has a small house, and I would literally be sleeping on the couch).
I cannot afford medical treatment for problems, and I only go to the doctor when I fear for my life, or to get STD screenings if-and-when I ever meet someone I hit it off with. I've been holding off a toe operation because I'm too busy and too poor to take time off AND afford the procedure. I've even been recommended to be tested for a high-functioning-spectrum learning disorder, which I have also been holding off, becasue again, money, time off.
Or from the perspective of another close friend of mine; one of whom is now on the dole having been told "OK, toodles!" after 4 years of PhD research and lecturing for the university he was studying in.
He's now got a PhD, and a CV with nothing on it except an entire adult life dedicated to a career in academia, which is now worthless becasue rather then give him a job as a lecturer, they can just get the 'next' PhD resercher to lecturer for them for free, until that guy gets tossed aside for the newer resercher.
Endless conveyor belt of free labour; who needs to employ anyone?
He has moved back with his parents, both retired teachers, and in between being self employed and trying to earn enough to get a career going, he has the social welfare, Tus, Fas, whatever calling him up for reviews asking him if he's sent enough CV around to the local fast food restaurants or considered volunteer work.
This was a guy who 5 years ago was organizing conferences in England, Europe and Brazil.
And that's just one to choose from.
You can either "listen to try understand", or you can "listen to retort".
Read this. http://www.thejournal.ie/suicide-young-men-ireland-3026176-Oct201 etc ...
I worked as a security guard and store detective for several years. I also delivered parcels as a motorcycle courier.
The difference between you, your friend and I is quite obvious... I am willing to work for a living and don't sit around feeling sorry for myself.