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# 1 : Sunday 6-8-2017 @ 02:51
 
 
Hi there
I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there who were born as boys in Ireland,if this is a description of you how is life living and working in Ireland.
Is it easy to go out and be who you really want to be
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# 2 : Sunday 6-8-2017 @ 07:22
 
 
Please don't refer to transgender people as "shemales". That's really a porn industry word and really offensive to transgender people!
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# 3 : Sunday 6-8-2017 @ 15:20
 
 
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that this is a genuine question and not just a way to find trans people who pass so you can mail them later and ask for a hook up thus avoiding the whole hassle of putting up a classified.

As Frodo said you aren't starting well using "Shemale", starting a question (assuming it is genuine) with a derogatory reference won't do you any favors so it might be a good idea to consider educating yourself a bit more in that regard. This isn't a criticism it is just a suggestion so that you don't make the same mistake again.

As for whether it is easy it depends on how you define "Hard", I live full time and in general get no hassle but saying that if you walked by me in the street you wouldn't be able to tell visually anyway, the odd time someone would be able to tell (maybe because I'm just having a bad day or I'm not paying attention and move in a certain way) and will do a double take but in general that's all and even at that they wouldn't actually say anything. It's not like people suddenly point at you and shout at the top of their voice "HEY LOOK EVERYONE, THAT'S A DUDE IN A DRESS" or anything. Most people will just look out of curiosity than any real bad intent towards you and that goes for everybody not just any sub culture/section of society, in general most people are pretty decent in that regard be they rich or poor or black or white or whatever negativity mostly comes from an individual not a demographic.

As for jobs that just depends on who's interviewing you at the time really, most companies have very progressive policies about hiring Transsexuals now (well in IT anyway) and actively encourage Transsexuals to apply but if the person who is interviewing you is a dick and has an issue with you then they will find some other reason to put down on paper why they didn't hire you but that's not only true of us. Gay people, disabled people, colored people and many others have the same happen to them too so again it is an individual based bias not one actively encouraged by the company.
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# 4 : Sunday 6-8-2017 @ 21:18
 
 
Nope this was not to pick up.
I am sorry for using the word s..male.
I will admit I am attracted to transgender ladies,but I'm not using this to pick up,I'm just in amazement of how difficult it must be but should not.
I did not mean to offend anyone
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# 5 : Saturday 12-8-2017 @ 22:57
 
 
Someone said :
Nope this was not to pick up.
I am sorry for using the word s..male.
I will admit I am attracted to transgender ladies,but I'm not using this to pick up,I'm just in amazement of how difficult it must be but should not.
I did not mean to offend anyone

no harm done, mistakes happen

It's not that difficult at all, the world is changing and Ireland (well most of it) is a lot more progressive than you'd think, there are a lot worse countries we could be transitioning in. Don't be to quick to feel sorry for us because I'd rather my situation to yours any day, you say you are attracted to trans women but on your profile say you would love to "meet up discreetly with transgenders" (not sure if that's the plural of Transgender, it just doesn't sound right when you say it out loud, it's probably Transgendi or something ) which implies you can't be open about your sexual preference so what happens if you meet someone who you really like? if one of those people you meet discreetly just ticks all your boxes? you'd have to give them up to be in a more "socially acceptable" relationship, now that sounds difficult. Personally I couldn't live like that, at least for me the worst is over, I don't have to hide who I am or who I am attracted to. I could openly date a straight guy, a gay guy (not likely but I could), a lesbian, a male to female or a female to male and no one would even bat an eyelid, in some cases it would actually be what people assume of me.

All the "hard" stuff isn't really that hard when you look at it from the perspective that I have the freedom to make my own choices whereas your choices are probably dictated by a social construct of what is "normal".
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# 6 : Sunday 13-8-2017 @ 01:00
 
 
Most of my time is spent in the UK now and not so much in Ireland anymore so I can't really give a full answer to the OP's question but life is no better and no worse than anyone else really. There are good days and some less so.

Sorry for my "generic" sounding answer but I'm more interested as to what the motivation for the OP's question was?
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# 7 : Tuesday 5-9-2017 @ 19:03
 
 
its tough I believe, one good friend has struggled seriously living here, coming out and transitioning...
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# 8 : Thursday 7-9-2017 @ 23:41
 
 
Someone said :
its tough I believe, one good friend has struggled seriously living here, coming out and transitioning...

Sorry but one example is not overall proof because if it were it would be like saying "I have a gay friend who had a bad coming out experience THEREFORE every gay person WILL have a negative coming out experience", when it is said like that doesn't it sound ridiculous?


Oh yeah I don't think he really cared anyway, he was just obviously asking to circumvent the classifieds
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# 9 : Friday 8-9-2017 @ 05:48
 
 
No John its not easy. I need to express myself as who I really am but cant. It is driving me nuts. I was able to supress it for a good many years but the older I get the more unbearable it becomes.
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# 10 : Saturday 9-9-2017 @ 09:27
 
 
Hi there stranger
Hit me up xxx
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# 11 : Saturday 9-9-2017 @ 20:08
 
 
Someone said :
No John its not easy. I need to express myself as who I really am but cant. It is driving me nuts. I was able to supress it for a good many years but the older I get the more unbearable it becomes.

But again that is not indicative of what it is like LIVING as a transsexual, he asked what it is like to be living full time which you obviously aren't so you can't really give an opinion because the truth is you don't know because you can always go back to being a guy.
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# 12 : Saturday 9-9-2017 @ 20:16
 
 
Thats two completely different things being talked about.
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# 13 : Saturday 9-9-2017 @ 21:00
 
 
Someone said :
Thats two completely different things being talked about.

What I said is on topic,

"Hi there stranger
Hit me up xxx"


isn't anywhere close to the topic unless we assume I was right in my first post and the OP really was trying to circumvent the classifieds. Lies, deceit, subterfuge, it is all just a rich tapestry.
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